Would you wait?

     Do you love someone so much that you would do anything for them? I mean, anything?  Would you put them before yourself, no matter how it effects you? Would you suffer to cause them happiness? I asked myself this question and the answer was, yes.

  I have just started rereading a book that changed my convictions years ago. It's called, "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." (I will touch more on this completely awesome book in a bit ;) If you are a believer in dating, I'm sure you're thinking, "Ha! No thank you...Weirdo." lol
  I know I grew up thinking that to find Mr. Right, you had to date. You had to go through a number of guys until you found the one that was made for you. The one that was your soul mate. Sounded like a darn good plan to me! But, over the years my mother learned new things about something called, Courting. Sounds old fashioned huh? Well, it is! I myself, am a lover of old fashioned things so I was curious about what it was as soon as my mother uttered the word. She told me that, (this was a few years back) she no longer wanted me to want to date when the time came. When you "court" you choose to never be really alone with the guy. It protects your heart and his. You spend time with eachothers family. After all, you marry the guy/girl, you marry their family as well. ;) My first thought was, "What? You don't want me to date? What are you talking about? I have to date if I want to find him!" lol   At this point I had liked a few guys but the word date hadn't really popped up. But I knew it was around the corner. I was now a teenager. People were asking me if I had a boyfriend. I was ready to tell them, "Yes. As a matter of fact, I do." I was ready for what I was not ready for. ;)
 
   I know what I am meant to do. I feel it inside of me. I am meant to be a wife and stay at home mom. Others may disagree with my descision, but its not their life it is mine. Having this strong feeling, comes the urge to grab ahold of it. I want to marry now. I want kids now. I want to start my future. I am an impatient person if you can't tell. lol God, thankfully is much smarter than  me and has made me wait because He knows I haven't been ready to take on all of that...yet.
   My main focuses these past few years have been to learn how to become the best wife and mother I can possibly be when the time comes. I have saved myself  phisically, spiritually, and emotionally for my husband. I want to give all of my gifts to him. I want to tell him on our wedding night, "Here I am, and all of me is yours. I have saved every gift for you, and now they are all truly yours."
    I have heard some people ask me, "Why do want this now? You're still so young. Just be a kid while you can. " I am, and I have been a kid. I am by no means an adult. Not yet at least. Even when I'm of age, I won't be an adult. I believe I will be an adult when my soul has reached an adult level. You have to learn and go through things to age you. At least that is what I believe. I have pondered on the statement, "Still so young." It's funny to think that in the old days girls were married off much younger than me. What changed? What made it to where people think that I am way to young to marry and take on my beautiful future God has for me? Many I know could touch on the fact that I said, "in the old days." I know the world is changing everyday. We are advancing. We are bettering, in a few ways. Others...not so much. lol But, it being from "in the old days" doesn't make it dumb to still believe in. It worked then, so why not now? I could go on for awhile about this topic, but this is not the intent of this blog post. So, I must stop my girly rambling ;)

  Now, to get back to "I Kissed Dating Goodbye." The author's name for those who don't know is Joshua Harris. I just love this man. lol I started this book and devoured it within a matter of days the first time I read it. I probably would've finished sooner, if time had allowed me too. He touchs on everything having to do with relationships. I, being single focused on the "being single" parts mostly, but it all helped me. The most helpful points for me lately, is what I should look for in a husband. I have had the problem of being so dang excited about finding, or my husband finding me that I would look at every guy as a option. I would start by if I found him cute. If he was, I kept on my mission. Sounds silly, right? Well it was. I have no right to do that to them. If you're a young/unmarried female, you may have done the same thing. Josh touchs on this and I can't possibly write all that he has written in the book in this post.lol But, for any young,christian/unmarried maidens out there who may read this. Make sure when you get close enought to someone to even contimplate him as a husband, (because we all know that is the whole point of dating or courting or whatever you choose to do) that you know that he is a Christian, that he is saved, that he respects his mother (this is a great way to see how he'll respect you), as well as his father, and that he can support you. There are so many things to look at. In the book in tell you that marriage is also not something to play around with. It's not always cuddling, and loving nicknames. Mom would tell me, "When you fall for him, you don't ever want him to go home. When you're married, you can't ever send him home." LOL In other words, there will be bumps along the road of marriage I should expect.
  Joshua touches on the very important things you need to get past before hand, so you don't add to what you'll already have. He also talks about playing a game. "What matters at fifty?"  I'm going to quote his words that really hit me when he talked about this. " When I meet a beautiful girl and I'm tempted to be overly impressed by her extrernal features, I try to imagine what this girl will look like when she is fifty years old. (If this girl is with her mother, this game doesn't take too much imagination.) This girl may be young and pretty now, but what happens when the beauty fades? Does anything within her beckon to me? Is it her character that radiates and draws me toward her, or is it just the fact that her summer dress shows off a little too much of her tan? So what if her feminine outline captures my eye today? When pregnancies add stretch marks and the years add extra punds, will something in this girl's soul continue to attact me?" Wow. I don't know about y'all but that really touched me.  "What matters at fifty" is definately a game I'll be playing. lol Most people my age today, have that hunger to fill emptyness they have while they are single. They want what God meant for them to have. But too many are rushing into it blind. I have a few friends that have done that and come out single and heartbroken. There are some that just feel left out. I can't tell you how many of some of my FB friends change their relationship status. I don't even pay attention to half of them anymore, they change so much. One friend was talking to me and said, " Well...*sighs* I'm single again."  My answer was, " Oh, I didn't know you had been with someone again. Are you and (so and so) still friends after breaking up?" Her answer was a correction. She was correcting me on who I was refferring too. She was with another guy... I'm amazed at how people can toss around boyfriends or girlfriends. I want to change my FB relationship status (as silly as all of that is) and mean it and not change it back to single ever. I only want to go forward.
      I'm lucky to have a mother who has prepared me for when I meet my husband. I will not be going into it blind like some of my other friends. I will go into it ready. I could say so much more on this blog post, but it's far long enough. (lol) I will end it what Joshua Harris talks about towards the end of the book.He says, " What will I do when I meet this young woman? I think about that often. I don't know exactly what I'll say. Maybe I'll get down on my knees and beg her to spend the rest of her life growing old with me. We can watch our bodies fall apart and together wait for the day when the Master gives us new ones. And when I kiss her on our wedding day, I'll revel in the wife of my youth, but I'll whisper in her ear, "I can't wait to see you when you're fifty." Well said Josh! I don't know if God will send me my husband soon, or make me wait a few more years (Oh please God, no! ^ o ^ hehe ;) But I do know, I'm so very excited. 

Oh, and a question to any single readers. Would you wait for him/her? Would you save every gift you have for them? Does your future spouse mean that much to you? Just something to think about.

God Bless! :D